We naturally put the blame on others. We blame people for making us angry. We blame somebody for consistently being late. We blame our professors for not teaching well. We blame our cat when she creates a mess. We blame the the government, the rich, and the poor. It’s easy to put the blame on others. All we need to do is believe it, and justifications will form and help us hold our opinion indefinitely.
Eventually we might get tired of just getting screwed and take matters into our own hands. We learn that nobody can ‘make us’ do anything, and we stop getting angry at people. We realize that our friend will always be late, and get over it by just not depending on him. We figure out that our professors are there to help, but we need to pick up the book and actually do some work if we’re not satisfied with that C-. We learn that cats always knock the jug of water over, and we should adapt by just not putting the jug and the cat together.
Every single thing we do is our own choice. We choose to go to work. We choose to pay our bills. We choose to drive safely, or to drive recklessly, or to walk 20 miles to work. We choose our friends, and we choose to get angry or depressed over certain things. It’s easy to put the blame on anything else, but it won’t help solve the underlying problem. It’s part of our ego’s self-defense mechanism. Spending all day complaining and ranting all day is a waste of your time, and the time of the person your yapping to. Nobody cares. Putting yourself in the 3rd person might help make you aware of this bad habit.
Who did you blame today?
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